The Transition to Adulthood is Stressful-That’s Normal
And what they end up with is a kid who is not prepared to deal with the injustice, stress, and discomfort of life. In many cases, they let things slide that they know are wrong. They protect their kids from consequences. They fight with the schools over their child’s grades and conduct. I know this because I’ve dealt with so many of these parents. In particular, I think that too many parents do everything they can to ensure that their kids don’t feel discomfort because they believe that discomfort is a bad thing. In this case, the easy way out is being oppressive to your parents so that you don’t feel any stress.īut don’t get me wrong, I think that parents also have to take some of the responsibility for this behavior. One thing we know about human beings is that they will, by their nature, take the easy way out.
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That’s easier than learning how to live with a roommate because you can’t afford your own apartment and a car at the same time. Your child will blame and intimidate you because that’s easier at that moment than getting a job and working. When you’re 18, 19, or 20 and all the things your parents told you are coming true-that you’re not prepared for the work force, that you should have studied harder, that you need to push yourself-it is easy to get resentful and blame and intimidate your parents. As a result, you need to know that adult children won’t take the time and trouble to learn new behavior patterns unless they’re forced to.Īdult children who use verbal abuse, aggression, and destruction of property to deal with their parents are basically using intimidation and force to solve complex problems. I really think once kids are adolescents and adults, their behavior patterns are very set. But a 20 year-old who destroys your property? There’s just no excuse for that. It’s perhaps understandable that parents make excuses for younger kids who are abusive, hoping they’ll grow out of it. This may sound harsh, but I think it’s amazing how people will make excuses for older kids who exhibit that type of behavior. Related content: Is Your Defiant Child Damaging or Destroying Your Home?
Indeed, these kids are often angry and resentful. The parents we work with at Empowering Parents often report a tremendous amount of verbal abuse, cursing, and property destruction by their adult children. Consider reading and leaving a comment below about your own story as well. What I will do here (and what I believe will be helpful for most readers) is to discuss several of the important issues that come up when dealing with an adult child.Įditors note: This article has generated over one hundred comments from parents sharing their own experiences. In the end, we need to teach our kids that accepting life’s responsibilities is much easier than trying to avoid them. And the sad irony of this situation is that the misery of being an unmotivated adult child is far worse than the misery of getting a job and learning to live independently. Unfortunately, today’s kids don’t like making sacrifices and parents don’t like making their kids make sacrifices. And, most concerning, more and more of those kids are idle and going nowhere fast. Indeed, more and more kids are living at home with their parents well into their 20s and beyond. The phenomenon of adult children living at home and dependent on their parents has become a national problem.
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